“When a woman conceives,” when one wishes for Heaven’s compassion, he must “conceive” the effort; he must stir himself to Serve his Creator, only then, “gives birth to a male,” will he find that his efforts have borne fruit. (Ba’al Shem Tov al ha-Torah)

We are often willing to put in the necessary effort of, “When a woman conceives,” and stir ourselves to reach a higher level in our service of God, and, we often find success. However, there is that point just as we have achieved a lofty spiritual goal after much effort and prayer that we experience a sense of loss before we are able to set our sights on the next level. We have worked hard, and have been focused on a specific goal, and have been wrapped up in that effort, and are at a loss once our goal has been achieved. This sense of loss is the “impurity caused by childbirth,” the impurity of losing, even for a moment, our focus on the next stage of our growth.